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MsRoom157
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Joined: Aug 30, 2007
Posts: 580
Location: Toronto
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Nov 04, 2009 - 03:06 PM |
 
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This is something I have wanted to do for a long time, and Im sure has been done many times before. Face it, single men are part of the lifestyle. Maybe not for some couples, but they are for me, and my husband. So last night when I couldn’t sleep, I thought about posting a few little tips for the single males out there, especially ones that are new to the lifestyle and not really too sure about this whole game. It takes a lot of time to get the ‘swing’ of things – and most are a little to shy to ask too many questions, or get frustrated and leave the lifestyle for whatever reason. So, hopefully these few hints might help. There are some great guys out there, but some of you just don’t ‘get it’ …
1. SHOW UP!! If you make a date – be there – and be on time – no matter what. More than likely, if you stand a woman up – there wont be a next time, no matter what your excuse. I had one guy show up at 12:30 when our date was for 9 – he said he was playing cards with the boys and didn’t realize how late it was …. NEXT!!
2. Show respect to the husband – look him in the eye, shake his hand – have some conversation – I know it can be very intimidating, and a lot of husbands realize that, but whatever you do, do not ignore the man. If the husband is not comfortable with you, it isn’t going to happen.
3. BRING CONDOMS!! No matter what – bring condoms!! Even if you don’t think there is any chance of play – you should always come prepared. So many single guys show up hoping that the couple will supply the condoms – not true. To me, a condom is a personal choice of the man, is it not? Nothing worse than being in the heat of the moment, ready for penetration, when the guy will say ‘I don’t have any condoms’ – then your scrambling around looking for one – and, hmmm, it doesn’t fit!! now what??
4. Never assume that in the heat of the moment the woman will allow you to ride bareback – huge no no … don’t even try. This is something so personal that should be discussed well before hand. Anyone experienced in the lifestyle will know, condoms are a must!!
5. Be honest – always … the only time you should ever lie to a woman is if she is stupid enough to ask you ‘how old do you think I am’ hahhaaa …. soooo guilty of that one!! Heres a hint … look at her, guess her age in your head, and subtract 10 years!! believe me, that’s what she wants to hear LOLOL …..
6. Dress nice – you don’t have to wear a suit and tie but be respectful …. don’t show up on a date where the woman cant figure out whether to fuck you or go to her purse and give you some spare change …. put a little effort into how you look…
7. Never be kissing a woman or dancing with her in a slow dance, and be looking over her shoulder to see if something better is behind her lmaoooo – come on guys!! give the woman you are with your whole attention – make her feel she is the only woman in the room.
8. I know for a lot of guys, and especially the new ones, coming to the club is like being a kid in a candy store – overwhelming – you want it all…. if you come alone, fine, go for it, but if you are with a ‘date’ try to control yourself.
9. Do not lead a woman on and make her believe that you are coming out to the club to meet her and show up with another woman. This has happened to me so many times I have lost count.
This last one is hard because a lot of people – myself included – don’t actually make ‘dates’ – they will meet at the club, and if there is a connection, they will take it from there, if not, they move on … but be careful about this … women are delicate, tender, fucked up flowers, that get their feelings hurt very easily … so if you are coming with a woman so that you can come in as a couple, make SURE she is well aware of that before hand.
10. If you arrange to meet a couple at the club, and either one of you find there isn’t a sexual connection – no problem – Im sure everyone will still have a great time. Remember tho, when its time for you leave, whether its alone or with another couple – take the time to seek out the first couple and say goodnight.
11. The worst one of all .... never ever ask a woman if she can set you up with her daughter - good God!! what are you thinking??
I know a lot of people will argue that this is the lifestyle and that feelings should not be involved – sorry, but to me, that’s pure bullshit… we are all human beings – feelings come with the whole package … unfortunately for some of us women, they come 10 fold!
Anyone that took the time to actually read all this – lol – will probably be thinking, omg that’s all so simple and should be obvious … well, I can honestly say that dealing with single guys for the 8 years we have been in the lifestyle – they are not!! Most guys are very respectful and wouldn’t even consider treating a woman this way, but there are a few of you out there that need a few lessons …. |
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Judith
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Joined: Apr 18, 2009
Posts: 26
Location: Toronto
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Nov 04, 2009 - 03:52 PM |
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....OMG...Ms. Room.............you said it all!!! Playing also as a SINGLE I have had my usual disappointments and upsets. Why is it that single men sometimes do not afford prospective playmates the same considerations as they would in their 'vanilla world'?......respect, respect, RESPECT........AND COMMON decency and consideration.....it works!....If I am going to even consider sharing such an intimate act with you....don't I deserve the same as those in your 'vanilla world'?? Speaks volumes in regards to your character,,,and personally I won't accept anything LESS....... |
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MsRoom157
Slut Puppy
Joined: Aug 30, 2007
Posts: 580
Location: Toronto
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Nov 04, 2009 - 03:58 PM |
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exactly Judith - but I honestly believe that its only because they really dont understand the lifestyle and how it works ... I cant say whether they treat their vanilla friends the same way - I have no idea ... I just thought that maybe giving them a little insite to how us ladies feel, yes, and I speak for myself here - I am a slut - lol - no doubt about it!! but Im also a lady, and I want to be treated that way ... I think maybe some of them think, she just wants to get fucked - well sorry - not me - there has to be more to it that the physical ...
I can get cock anywhere - its whats attached to it that counts .... |
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tandacouple3
Sex Fiend
Joined: Oct 01, 2008
Posts: 63
Location: Barrie
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Nov 04, 2009 - 04:33 PM |
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MsRoom, thank you for taking the time to write out your observations. In your experience where is the best place to meet a single male and specifically the places I will mention below...
Swing club Friday night?
Craigslist?
Kijiji?
Out of town at a bar?
On vacation. |
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MsRoom157
Slut Puppy
Joined: Aug 30, 2007
Posts: 580
Location: Toronto
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Nov 04, 2009 - 04:45 PM |
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Personally - I like to meet at sweet cheeks - I find the atmosphere perfect for what I am looking for anyway ... we are all there for the same thing, and there isnt any guesswork LOL ... Friday nights are the best for single men - most of the guys are respectful, clean cut gentlemen - I find regular bars, omg, the guys have NO clue about the lifestyle ...
Meeting men anywhere other than a swing club - unless they are familiar with the lifestyle - is sooo much work LOL ....
I like meeting at swing clubs too because I love to flirt and tease, kissing is a huge turn on for me - and I cant dress or act the way I do anywhere else ... |
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baccarat
Sex Fiend
Joined: Aug 12, 2009
Posts: 71
Location: Toronto
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Nov 04, 2009 - 04:50 PM |
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nicely laid out(excuse the pun hun)
i must say i have run into #2 a number of times
what the fuck are you thinking(single guy)
you come to the club to meet my wife and dont talk to me, don't say hi and think you are going to get lucky? not a chance
respect is everything. we are a couple. understand that or fuck off!
learn to act in a polite respectfull manner and all will be cool
remember....she is the center of attention, ignoring her committed 20 year relationship finds you wandering the club wondering what went wrong. |
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MsRoom157
Slut Puppy
Joined: Aug 30, 2007
Posts: 580
Location: Toronto
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Nov 04, 2009 - 05:29 PM |
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please understand everyone - that I am not writing this to put anyone down - or say anything bad about singles - I love them too much lol ...
Alot of new guys have asked for advise - this is just my two cents worth is all ... |
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Judith
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Joined: Apr 18, 2009
Posts: 26
Location: Toronto
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Nov 04, 2009 - 05:54 PM |
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| MsRoom157 wrote: | exactly Judith - but I honestly believe that its only because they really dont understand the lifestyle and how it works ... I cant say whether they treat their vanilla friends the same way - I have no idea ... I just thought that maybe giving them a little insite to how us ladies feel, yes, and I speak for myself here - I am a slut - lol - no doubt about it!! but Im also a lady, and I want to be treated that way ... I think maybe some of them think, she just wants to get fucked - well sorry - not me - there has to be more to it that the physical ...
I can get cock anywhere - its whats attached to it that counts .... |
....."how they treat their vanilla friends" meaning,,,,I can't believe sometime that they would be the same way and even have any friends if they acted and treated those the same way in their vanilla world. I am so glad that you laid it all out MsRoom but I have to tell you I am not so sympathetic....When I entered this lifestyle,,,,I DID THE RESEARCH. I WANTED to know proper etiquette in this lifestyle. I wanted to do the right thing to be able to enjoy it fully and also not to offend anyone. A guy can usually spend hours pouring over the hockey or football results so why can`t he DO THE RESEARCH on this too!?? C`mon can`t they put the same effort into THIS beforehand.??!!!.........and btw.....if a `slut` is an adventourous woman that loves and thinks about sex just as much as a man...that`s me too`!! |
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LOVETOPLAY90
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Joined: Jun 18, 2004
Posts: 6
Location: Toronto Ontario
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Nov 04, 2009 - 06:09 PM |
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Msroom Thanks for the little checklist.I ama singlr male and do come to SC and must say that while it all makes sense it is not always followed by the single males.It would seem that a great number of single males go to the club and think that it is just cheap sex,the key to me is the word CLUB.I love women and also sex,yes I know I am a little older than most and I beleive that CHIVALRY and GOOD MANNERS are the key too living within the lifestyle.The other word that comes to mind is RESPECT,we do not have enough of that in our society but surely in the Club and the Lifestyle we should.
For all you single men out there read the list and reread the list and I am sure your success rate will skyrocket.
Thanks again Ms room |
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Tomandingogroup
Sex Fiend
Joined: Dec 23, 2005
Posts: 32
Location: Toronto, Mississauga
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Nov 04, 2009 - 07:07 PM |
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IN MY MIND ALL THESE SHOULD BE JUST COMMON SENSE, BUT AS WE ALL KNOW.. SAY IT WITH ME CLASS "COMMON SENSE IS NOT ALL THAT COMMON"
#2 IS A BIGGIE, I CANT TELL YOU HOW MANY TIMES, I SEE THE OPPISITE WITH THE SINGLE GENT, BOXING OUT THE GENT, LOL LIKE ITS A NIGHT CLUB AND HE'S JUST COMPETITION, LOL.
MY BEST EXPERIENCE IS WHEN I GO STRAIGHT TO THE GENT, INTRODUCE MYSELF AND COMPLIMENT HIM ON HIS LADY, THIS WORKS ON SO MANY LEVELS, LOL (I SHOULD MENTION I DON'T DO IT TO GET ASS, I DO IT TO GENULINELY SHOW VALUE) BUT IT STAYS WITH A MAN.
I LIKE IT WHEN MEN OR COUPLES DO IT TO ME WHEN I WALK IN WITH SOME SEXY CANDY.
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YOU KNOW WHO I AM, THAT TALK DARK SEXY BLACK GENT, ICU TOO!! |
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baccarat
Sex Fiend
Joined: Aug 12, 2009
Posts: 71
Location: Toronto
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Nov 04, 2009 - 07:13 PM |
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its guys like tomandingogroup that are the shining stars
hey single guys...if you see a tall good looking guy getting hit on by the ladies
its probably just because of that great attitude
and man does he have candy ...heh heh |
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couple4u
Insatiable
Joined: Dec 03, 2004
Posts: 5318
Location: oakville
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Nov 04, 2009 - 07:18 PM |
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Sandra
Verified Couple
Joined: Oct 03, 1999
Posts: 7596
Location: Toronto
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Nov 05, 2009 - 12:02 AM |
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Great list and right on the money. I have to tell you, we pretty much gave up on the single guy thing a long time ago because of the behaviours you described.
D jokes that maybe some of these guys are single not by choice but because they treat women in both the vanilla world and the lifestyle with the same disrespect.
My prime pet peeve is #1 on your list. Lost count how many times there were no shows. Given that we ask them to call if they can't make it, that's totally lame. I figure the reason is that their wife/GF found something else for them to do that night  |
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MsRoom157
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Joined: Aug 30, 2007
Posts: 580
Location: Toronto
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Nov 05, 2009 - 12:44 AM |
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those damn 'honey do' lists - heehee |
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missy885
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Joined: Aug 20, 2008
Posts: 12
Location: York
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Nov 05, 2009 - 02:59 PM |
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Well said msroom157...and again we agree on everything!! |
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firebird
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Joined: Dec 17, 2000
Posts: 2089
Location: oakville
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Nov 05, 2009 - 03:04 PM |
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Well done MsRoom157.
You have covered a lot of problems in the lifestyle. I started the lifestyle as a couple. Became single and now occasionally I still am arriving sometimes a single male and sometimes as a couple. A total lack of effort to educate themselves about the lifestyle by both singles and sometimes couples too often leads to problems. The biggest problem with some new males is the misconception that any woman in the lifestyle is delighted to be molested and fucked by any guy that wants her. Sometimes I think it is easier to get lucky in some vanilla bars than at SC if you don't know how to treat women. Maybe a hand out booklet for newbies, especially new males should be available and required reading before entering the dances. Ms Room could write it. |
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Judith
Newbie
Joined: Apr 18, 2009
Posts: 26
Location: Toronto
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Nov 05, 2009 - 03:17 PM |
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| firebird wrote: | Well done MsRoom157.
You have covered a lot of problems in the lifestyle. I started the lifestyle as a couple. Became single and now occasionally I still am arriving sometimes a single male and sometimes as a couple. A total lack of effort to educate themselves about the lifestyle by both singles and sometimes couples too often leads to problems. The biggest problem with some new males is the misconception that any woman in the lifestyle is delighted to be molested and fucked by any guy that wants her. Sometimes I think it is easier to get lucky in some vanilla bars than at SC if you don't know how to treat women. Maybe a hand out booklet for newbies, especially new males should be available and required reading before entering the dances. Ms Room could write it. |
"....The biggest problem with some new males is the misconception that any woman in the lifestyle is delighted to be molested and fucked by any guy that wants her..." .........On a recent visit to the club my husband asked a single man why he preferred SC over any of the other clubs for meeting girls. He responded,,,,"because the girls here just want to have sex and you don't have to do ANYTHING or put any EFFORT into getting it..." wow.......that response from a regular single just blew us both
away........!!!!!!! |
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tandacouple3
Sex Fiend
Joined: Oct 01, 2008
Posts: 63
Location: Barrie
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Nov 05, 2009 - 07:44 PM |
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It is tough. On one hand you do want your women loose at one of these events !
On the other hand, saying that he is "doing nothing" means he sleeps alone most of the time LOL. |
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mrroom157
Slut Puppy
Joined: Feb 21, 2002
Posts: 927
Location: toronto
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Nov 05, 2009 - 08:27 PM |
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| Sandra wrote: | Great list and right on the money. I have to tell you, we pretty much gave up on the single guy thing a long time ago because of the behaviours you described.
D jokes that maybe some of these guys are single not by choice but because they treat women in both the vanilla world and the lifestyle with the same disrespect.
My prime pet peeve is #1 on your list. Lost count how many times there were no shows. Given that we ask them to call if they can't make it, that's totally lame. I figure the reason is that their wife/GF found something else for them to do that night |
The main reason alot of the single guys that hang out at swing clubs is like that sandra!! i have seen it several times !
Ill have to admit . I have met some perfect gentlemen during our tenure in the lifestyle though . sweetcheeks has lots of em !
LOL!!! i remember a guy once told my wife to askme if i would mind terribly if she could let the hair on her pussy grow for him !!!
I told her "sure tell him to supply the grass seed and well grow grass on it
like bugs bunny did on elmer fudds head ! |
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mrroom157
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Joined: Feb 21, 2002
Posts: 927
Location: toronto
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Nov 05, 2009 - 08:28 PM |
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lending my wife out has taken on a whole new dimension ! |
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firebird
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Joined: Dec 17, 2000
Posts: 2089
Location: oakville
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Nov 06, 2009 - 12:56 AM |
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I have to admit that when attending as a couple on either Fri or Sat. we met more gentlemen than jerks and the ex was very good at giving the few jerks the evil eye and cold shoulder. For some women though, one jerk with no manners can ruin the evening even if all the other guys are decent.
I am surprised at all the no shows that happen especially among men. I make a commitment I keep it. A person is only as good as their word and their word isn't any good, they unlikely to be of any value either. |
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MsRoom157
Slut Puppy
Joined: Aug 30, 2007
Posts: 580
Location: Toronto
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Nov 06, 2009 - 12:50 PM |
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You said it perfect firebird - it only takes one jerk to ruin a whole night ...
Most of the singles that come out to the clubs - are definitly gentlemen, you can always tell the ones that have that little bit of experience in the lifestyle - they know the game.
A well dressed gentleman with manners thats smells so yummy I just wanna eat him up right there on the dance floor ... thats what I want LOL ....
One thing you guys have to remember, is that us woman TALK ... oh boy!! do we ever - hahaaa ... sooo, if you treat a lady with respect, and courtesy, it will go all the way down the line, and you will find she is introducing you to her 'friends' ....
You catch more bees with honey - so be sweet, gooey and just oooze charm .... damn, now Im horny again .... |
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Lookingforlust
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Joined: Nov 07, 2009
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Location: mississauga
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Nov 07, 2009 - 01:25 AM |
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very helpful checklist... I will follow all of them.... |
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MsRoom157
Slut Puppy
Joined: Aug 30, 2007
Posts: 580
Location: Toronto
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Nov 07, 2009 - 03:05 PM |
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wow –I wasn’t expecting so much positive feedback from this post – I was actually having second thoughts about posting it as I thought it would get some peoples backs up – but even last night at the club, I had at least 3 or 4 people approach me and tell me what a great post it was … *blush* love it … thanks everyone …
Last night at the club was a little emmm ‘wild’ … lol –now Im not sure if that was me, (shut up coreman), or just the general atmosphere – everyone letting loose after a long hard week … but it made me realize that I forgot to post the most important rule of the lifestyle … now these are not just words, they are LAW ….
NO … MEANS …. NO!!!!
If you ask a woman to dance, and she politely says, no thank you – step back…. asking her again in 30 seconds, grabbing her as she walks by, trying to take her hand, and pulling her towards you (especially if she is talking or dancing with another man) is more than likely going to turn her right off, and you might even find yourself being escorted to the parking lot by Tony Soprano … so please guys, and ladies too – if you ask someone to dance and they say no – take a step back .. who knows, that person might approach you later on in the evening and ask YOU to dance …
The best lines I ever had, and I chuckle every time a guys says this … is ‘but its my birthday’ hahhaaaa!!!! or, ‘but my wife is only out of town once a year’ *palm to forehead* …maybe its my warped sense of humour, but I find those hilarious!! Begging just isn’t going to do it ….
Another biggie for me anyway, is, take it slow guys … I know we are all excited, its Friday night – been a long week, God I need to get out and just let loose –hormones are flying!! – but when you find a woman is attracted to you, and you are on the dance floor, don’t assume that just because she is dancing with you, you can tickle the back of her throat via her pussy!! Let the lady lead, she will let you know how far you can go – or, you can politely ask her – may I touch you – its very simple. If your not comfortable actually asking her in words, body language speaks volumes – again, she will let you know how far you can go – but if she removes your hand, once, twice and a third time – take the hint!!! A lot of women do like that, they like the man to just take total control and be the aggressor – but I would suggest you find that out before you get too carried away. Maybe you saw that same woman on the dance floor already being very intimate with another man - dont assume she will be that way with you - perhaps she knows this other gentleman well enough that she feels comfortable letting loose with him.
Never, ever assume that when a couple are playing in the back area that you can touch … never!! If the couple complains, you will be asked to leave – period …. please, and this is so important, ask first! ‘would you mind if I joined you’ – works perfect. Don’t think that just because a woman is lost in bliss she isn’t going to feel your hand on her ass lol …. again, some women like that, but a lot don’t – so follow the rules and ask …
One more …. don’t drink too much!! no more words needed there …. |
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baccarat
Sex Fiend
Joined: Aug 12, 2009
Posts: 71
Location: Toronto
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Nov 07, 2009 - 04:46 PM |
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y'know msroom
you oughta write a book
such a gentle manner to educate and so sexy |
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couple4u
Insatiable
Joined: Dec 03, 2004
Posts: 5318
Location: oakville
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Nov 07, 2009 - 04:50 PM |
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| Quote: | One more …. don’t drink too much!! no more words needed there ….
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What on earth was with that last night!
If you're that drunk that you have to use a woman as a leaning post to repel the inertia of Newton's law, she will not be impressed, nor I.
If you tell a woman, that even though she is fat, you will do her anyway, she will not see this as a flattering statement!
If you are so drunk that you grab the first breast you see, greeting it with a handshake, she will not be turned on!
Whats more, you will be shown the door... |
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MsRoom157
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Joined: Aug 30, 2007
Posts: 580
Location: Toronto
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Nov 07, 2009 - 05:07 PM |
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haha tooo funny couple4 - biggest turn off for me is a guy that has had too much to drink - dont even come near me ....
It seems like everything I am writing is coming from a womans point of view - go figure .... but sometimes, probably very rarely tho - lol - a man will find himself in a compromising position and doesnt really know what to do or say to get out of it .... dont feel obligated guys, just because she wants you - your allowed to be picky too you know lol ....
I was talking to someone who answered my ad, and he said that he had been to Sweet Cheeks once, and had a very bad experience with a woman that was overly aggressive (I swear, it wasnt me - giggle). The young man felt very uncomfortable, but 'went along with it' - okkk , ewwww, but I can see where he would feel kind of cornered...
Dont feel pressured - Politely say 'Im sorry, Im just not comfortable with this right now, but thank you' - even a rejection can be done with class .... |
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Sandra
Verified Couple
Joined: Oct 03, 1999
Posts: 7596
Location: Toronto
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Nov 08, 2009 - 12:58 PM |
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If you tell a woman, that even though she is fat, you will do her anyway, she will not see this as a flattering statement! |
OMG...you mean someone was actually heard saying that? Even if the person was drunk, I think in some parts of the world that is justifiable grounds for slamming them head first into the parking lot pavement over and over and over......... |
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couple4u
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Location: oakville
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Nov 08, 2009 - 06:00 PM |
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Sandra, it really did happen!
Coreman did eventually apologize! |
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firebird
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Joined: Dec 17, 2000
Posts: 2089
Location: oakville
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Nov 09, 2009 - 01:32 AM |
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Ms Room wrote:'I was talking to someone who answered my ad, and he said that he had been to Sweet Cheeks once, and had a very bad experience with a woman that was overly aggressive (I swear, it wasnt me - giggle). The young man felt very uncomfortable, but 'went along with it' - okkk , ewwww, but I can see where he would feel kind of cornered>"
I had a similar experience several years ago but it wasn't at SC. The much younger woman was very attractive and decided that she would have sex with me, but something just didn't click for me and It was difficult to let her know with out seriously hurting her feelings. It especially hard to tell her that I just wasn't interested in her because she was giving me a very hot lap dance at the time. If men cum on to strong sexually and get rejected by a woman that is considered normal but if a man decides he doesn;t want to have sex with an attractive and willing woman she is very insulted and he is considered strange or gay at the least!!!! |
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couple4u
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Location: oakville
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Nov 09, 2009 - 01:37 AM |
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| Quote: | | I had a similar experience several years ago but it wasn't at SC. The much younger woman was very attractive and decided that she would have sex with me, but something just didn't click for me and It was difficult to let her know with out seriously hurting her feelings. |
For the love of all that is good Firebird, next time pass the baton! |
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tandacouple3
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Location: Barrie
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MsRoom157
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Joined: Aug 30, 2007
Posts: 580
Location: Toronto
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Nov 09, 2009 - 03:06 PM |
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well now, that wasnt very nice tandacouple!
hard to get a hard on if your not attracted to someone - so I doubt very much it was that ... not ALL men can achieve a hard-on at the drop of a hat ... there has to be some kind of chemistry ...
Your right firebird - rejection is hard - but if its done politely, then the woman, or man, shouldnt be offended .... if they are, then that is their problem hun, not yours ...
I too have had some guys be very rude and call me disgusting names becuase I have told them Im not interested ... of course, it was only in emails - no man would have the guts to say those things to my face LOL ... |
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firebird
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Joined: Dec 17, 2000
Posts: 2089
Location: oakville
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Nov 09, 2009 - 03:27 PM |
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tandacouple3
The woman was a hott and she liked me but I had seen her treat other people like crap. She was so full of herself she was very arrogant and rude to other people. It doesn't work for me if the beauty is only on the outside and her personality really sucked. The lap dance was her idea and I should have said no when she first invited herself on my lap. |
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tandacouple3
Sex Fiend
Joined: Oct 01, 2008
Posts: 63
Location: Barrie
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Nov 09, 2009 - 06:06 PM |
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It was not meant to be mean. This is a guy thing. The penis always has the final say! |
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firebird
Insatiable
Joined: Dec 17, 2000
Posts: 2089
Location: oakville
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Nov 09, 2009 - 08:51 PM |
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tandacouple3 :
Very true. A guy can't quite fake it the way women can.
I have met women that were not at all in the hot category that I couldn't talk to without getting a woody but if a woman is just plain an arrogant rude bitch, it just isn't going to work no matter how hot she looks.
But a super hotti that is also a sweety will always get me going. They are rare but wonderful when you find them. |
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MsRoom157
Slut Puppy
Joined: Aug 30, 2007
Posts: 580
Location: Toronto
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Nov 24, 2009 - 01:54 PM |
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This post from Illuminated was written on another thread ... so I copied and pasted it here ... Im sure she wont mind ... but I thought this should also be mentioned here under The Single Male .... mmmm - under the single male - I like that!!!
Attending the club this past Saturday may not have been so easy for first time single males. They now need to be pre-approved for entry to Sweet Cheeks on Saturday nights. A first time visit by a single male is best reserved for a Friday night and inquiries could be made with the door hosts about the screening process. Smile |
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Ruthy
Verified Couple
Joined: May 09, 2001
Posts: 4148
Location: Toronto
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Nov 24, 2009 - 02:15 PM |
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MsRoom157,
you read my mind.  |
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Stay Happy
Ruthy |
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Sandra
Verified Couple
Joined: Oct 03, 1999
Posts: 7596
Location: Toronto
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Nov 24, 2009 - 05:26 PM |
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Years ago single men used to have to pass an interview sort of process with Ruthy before they could come to one of the house parties they held in their former home.
It's nice to see something similar being enacted again. |
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playfulcpl
Verified Couple
Joined: Nov 18, 2004
Posts: 159
Location: hamilton
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Nov 24, 2009 - 05:37 PM |
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Some guys still need to read the "dress code" Before coming out to the club. Remember sneaker are sneakers it does not matter if you payed $1 or $500 for them |
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